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Building a Supportive Network: Surrounding Yourself with Confidence-Boosting Allies

Where would we be without the people who support us?


And that’s the truth.

In our journey toward personal and professional growth, the power of a supportive network cannot be overstated. Surrounding yourself with confidence-boosting allies can make a significant difference in your self-belief, motivation, and overall success.

A supportive network consists of individuals who believe in your potential, offer encouragement, provide constructive feedback, and celebrate your achievements. Having such a network is instrumental in boosting your confidence, resilience, and overall well-being. They are the cheerleaders who inspire and motivate you to reach your goals.

But what characteristics should these allies have? And where the heck do you find them? And how do you make sure the relationship is beneficial for all involved?

I’ll be honest…at times, it can be hard to “find your people.” But there are ways to do it…and I’m sharing my best tips with you today!

Identifying Confidence-Boosting Allies

I want you to think about your circle and think about those people who can act as a confidence-boosting ally.

And trust me…they may not be your bestie or a family member.

Because confidence-boosting allies possess certain characteristics that make them invaluable in your network - and they are not necessarily the same characteristics that friends and family bring (although they might be).

These individuals genuinely care about your growth, listen attentively, and provide honest and constructive feedback. They celebrate your successes without envy and are willing to offer guidance and support during challenging times. Look for allies who inspire you, challenge your thinking, and bring out the best in you.

Building Authentic Relationships

Building authentic relationships is the foundation of a supportive network.


You know that I am big on authenticity - and your support network MUST be authentic.

Seek out individuals who share common interests, values, and goals. Engage in meaningful conversations and show genuine interest in their lives and aspirations. Nurture these relationships through regular communication, whether it's in-person meetups, phone calls, or virtual interactions. Authentic connections foster trust, vulnerability, and a sense of belonging.

Diversifying Your Network

I can’t recommend this enough.

Diversity in your network is key to expanding your perspectives and experiences. Cultivate relationships with individuals from different backgrounds, industries, and areas of expertise. This diversity brings fresh insights, challenges your assumptions, and exposes you to new opportunities. Embrace the richness of diverse perspectives and leverage them to enhance your personal and professional growth.

Paying It Forward

I always say, “You have to give as good as you get.”

Building a supportive network is not a one-way street; it requires reciprocity. Be willing to offer support, encouragement, and valuable insights to others in your network. Paying it forward creates a positive cycle of support, fosters a sense of community, and strengthens the bonds within your network.

As you uplift others, you'll find that their success and growth also bring fulfillment and motivation to your own journey.

Joining Professional Associations and Communities

Professional associations and communities provide fertile ground for building a supportive network.

Join industry-specific organizations, attend networking events, and participate in online communities relevant to your interests and goals. These platforms offer opportunities to connect with like-minded individuals, expand your network, and learn from experienced professionals. Actively engage in discussions, share your knowledge, and seek advice from those who have walked a similar path.

Seeking Mentors and Role Models

I don’t know where I would be without mentors and role models - and that’s the truth. Mentors and role models play a pivotal role in shaping your personal and professional development - and I know that without them, I would not be where I’m at today.

Seek out individuals who have achieved success in areas you aspire to excel in. Approach them with humility, express your admiration, and ask for guidance. A mentor can provide valuable insights, share their experiences, and offer advice tailored to your specific journey. Their guidance and belief in your potential can significantly boost your confidence and propel you toward success.

Nurturing Online Connections

We can not dismiss the importance of online connections.

In today's digital age, online connections play a crucial role in building a supportive network. Leverage social media platforms, professional networking sites, and online communities to connect with individuals who share your passions and professional interests. Engage in thoughtful discussions, provide value through your content, and participate in virtual events and webinars. Online connections can transcend geographical boundaries, allowing you to build a diverse and globally connected network.

Seeking Accountability Partners

Nobody who has achieved greatness has done it alone. And one of the best ways to help yourself achieve your goals is to have an accountability partner.

Accountability partners are allies who hold you responsible for your goals and commitments. They offer support, help you stay on track, and provide a gentle push when needed. Seek individuals who are invested in your success, share similar aspirations, and are willing to hold you accountable for your actions and goals. Regular check-ins, goal-setting sessions, and honest feedback can significantly boost your confidence and propel you toward achieving your objectives.

Building a supportive network is a transformative process that can positively impact your personal and professional growth. Surrounding yourself with confidence-boosting allies who believe in your potential, provide guidance, and offer unwavering support is essential. Cultivate authentic relationships, seek diverse perspectives, and pay it forward by supporting others in your network. By doing so, you'll create a community of individuals who uplift and empower one another, fostering confidence, resilience, and overall success.

If you need a confidence-boosting ally or an accountability partner, let’s talk. I’d love to be that person for you and help you reach those goals you’ve set for yourself, both personally and professionally.

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